Which description is more accurate – the way you think you behave as person, or the person most other people think you behave? I am sometimes surprised (and disappointed) when my friends and family tell me what kind of person they think I am. I sometimes disagree with them, but most times I accept that they are right; the way people see you is surely more accurate than the way you see yourself.
Imagine if you thought you were a ‘strong and decisive’ person, yet other people perceived you as being ‘reckless and arrogant’. If a person is asked to describe themselves, and the people who know them the most are asked to describe the person, would the descriptions be the same? I think that deep down, all people know who they are as a person, but some people are not happy with what they are.
Imagine if you were watching the movie of your life as you are currently living it. Would you be impressed by the actions of the lead character? I’m not sure I’d enjoy watching that particular movie at the moment. I need to spend more time improving the script and changing the performance of the lead actor! 🙂
- Do You Have the Guts to Change? (psychologytoday.com)
- How Desire Affects Perceptions of Distance (gukurup.wordpress.com)
- Perception of Emotion is Culture-Specific (usnews.com)