Archive for July, 2009

Blog update

Today I went jogging for the first time in over a month, so I went VERY VERY slowly. I recorded an ‘official’ time of 51 min 9.0 seconds but I’m going to say that my ‘real’, ‘unofficial’ time was 49 min 9.0 seconds! Why? Because I saw a STOP signing along the way, and I stopped! I forgot that that sign has been there ALL the time!!! So yes, my unofficial time was 49 minutes…..

Letters versus Emails

I was just going through some of my old letters and it made me feel very nostalgic. These are letters that I received from close friends and family members, some of them written over 15 years ago (well, I think some were written 15 years ago – I’ll have to check them again….).

Anyway, I want to write about my take on the difference between letters and emails. I don’t have time now, but hopefully I’ll get to it soon.

The new form of communication

Let’s compare talking on the phone with chatting on the internet. Chatting in this case means using instant messaging software like MSN Messenger, Yahoo Messenger and Google Talk. 

‘One-to-many’ conversations 

On the phone, you only speak to one person. On the internet, you can chat to several people at the same time. However, whenever we chat to our friends online, we assume that they are the ONLY person who is chatting to us.

I remember using my webcam and chatting with several people at the same time. Someone would type something funny, and I would smile. Then another person would type “why are you smiling?”.

The only other time that we talk to many people at the same time is if they are in the same room as us. However, if we are in the same room as our friends, we will usually be talking about the same thing.

When we are on the online, we could be chatting to 3 or 4 different people who probably don’t know each other. We will be having 4 different conversations at the same time. Those people may also be having 3 or 4 different conversations with their friends.

We are all co-existing in a weird and unique virtual room, having serious conversations with some friends, while having funny conversations with others! What does this do to our emotions?


On the phone, you can’t pause for too long. On the internet, you can pause for some time and do other things. 

Changing sentences mid-way

If you start to say something on the phone, you usually have to finish what you’re saying. On the internet, you can start to type one sentence, then change your mind mid-way.

You are given a chance to see what your initial response is, and then you are given the opportunity to change it. When we say something on the phone that we later regret, those words can never be ‘re-called’.

On the phone, you hear what the other person says, think about your initial response in your head, then you either say it or say an ‘edited’ version. 

When you are chatting online, you can say all the real responses that you want, and you can do it out aloud. Then, when you are ready, you type in the ‘appropriate’ reply to your friend.

A permanent record of your conversations

When chatting on the internet, you can scroll back to something you said earlier. And now that we can save our conversations, you can go over all your previous conversations. 

Excuses excuses!

(I haven’t edited this yet, which is why it looks so unorganised!!!)

(Actually, I keep updating it, then posting the updated version straight away. Very untidy, I know, but I’m not a ‘real’ journalist or commentator, so I don’t really care! It’s more fun this way! 🙂 )

Happy versus Sad (a work in progress)

We feel happy when our plans succeed. We are happy when all our hard work has paid off (when our work has given us the result that we want). Our successes and our achievements make us happy.

We feel happy when we remember events that made us happy when they happened. Those events made us happy at the time, and they still make us happy now.

We also feel happy when our future plans are going well. The event hasn’t happened yet, but thinking about it makes us feel happy.

When we feel extremely sad, it is difficult to enjoy those events that used to make us happy. We can remember them, but not for long. It sometimes seems like they happened to someone else!

We feel like we are drowning in our sadness. We occasionally manage to bring our heads above the water, and breathe in some happiness.

For example, someone you really like (e.g. a friend or close relative) tells you that something nice has happened to them. You feel so happy for that person. But the moment soon passes. You either become sad again, or you go back to a place between happiness and sadness. (If you don’t feel happy and you don’t feel sad, what do you feel???)

Anyway, back to your close relative’s good news. You have to keep reminding yourself that the person’s happiness is also your happiness. And you do really feel happy for the person!

However, you are still feeling sad about your own situation.

Let’s take another example. You go to a party and you really enjoy yourself. You feel happy. But after the party finishes, you sink back below the surface! How do we continue to stay happy?

Rest In Peace Michael Jackson (1958 – 2009)

I was very sad when I heard that Michael Jackson had passed away. Sad and shocked!!! He was my favourite musician, and he was someone who I thought would never die! I have been listening to his music since Thriller came out in 1982. I was too young to buy the album, but my parents bought it (it was an LP), and I used to listen to him all the time.

I remember all the strange things he used to do, like sleeping in that oxygen tank and having a very close relationship with a chimpanzee (Bubbles). I also remember hearing that his hair had caught fire!!! (Did that event really happen???). Then I remember the awful incident when he held his baby over that balcony (what was he thinking???). Finally, I remember the court case and I remember being sooooo happy when he was found not guilty!!!!

I wish I could have gone to one of his concerts. Aw well… I now hope that his children grow up to be normal kids and I hope that Michael Jackson is remembered for his amazing music and amazing dance routines. May his soul rest in peace. Amen.

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